7 Things That Sabotage Your Success

Despite our best efforts to achieve success, we find ourselves knocked off course time and time again. It’s discouraging, draining, and thoughts of giving up are common. I have certainly felt this at each turning point in my evolution.  However, you may be guilty of self-sabotage and not even know it. Read how the 7 Things That Sabotage Your Success could be affecting your life:

1. Self-limiting Beliefs

Nothing zaps your confidence like self-limiting beliefs (aka excuses). If you’ve ever thought:

  • I’m not rich enough
  • I’m not smart enough
  • I’m not sure I can be a success
  • It’s too difficult for me

These kinds of thoughts put the brakes on your path to success. Our subconscious thoughts manifest into a self-fulfilling prophecy and you will end up getting in your own way. When these thoughts creep into your consciousness, ask yourself: “What am I getting from thinking these thoughts?” For example, if I think “I’m not smart enough,” it takes the pressure off of me to ever learn more and gain the necessary knowledge to get to my goal. I gain permission to NOT go after my dreams because I have an “out” and won’t have to change my negative pattern of behavior. Be aware of when doubt creeps in, and address why you’re having these thoughts.

2. Friends & Family

This might be surprising, but even people closest to you could unintentionally (or intentionally) sabotage your success. Well-meaning parents or friends will give you advice based on their own experience, limits, filter, and measure of success. Sometimes they react to your success with jealousy, confusion or fear and they may subconsciously work to derail your progress. Of course, it’s completely ok to ask friends and family for advice, but remember that only you know what is aligned with your own version of success. Even if you love and value their opinions, try not to let your friends and family lead you too far astray from your own course. What was successful for them may not necessarily be right for you. Listen to your own inner voice.

Read Also: How to Define Your Version of Success

3. Procrastination

Our time on this earth is finite. Most people delay going after their dreams because they think “I’ll have more time to do it later.” But later may never come, and if you’re not pushing towards success, nobody else will do it for you. Stop sitting on the sidelines talking about everything you’re going to do, and go out and do them now!

4. Not Wanting to Put in the Work

Success doesn’t come easy, so why do we think we’ll just wake up one morning and have it all without putting in the work? Most of the behind-the-scenes of your hard work towards achieving success won’t be glamorous or necessarily “fun”. Showing up day in and day out with intention and purpose will move the needle towards success.

5. Lack of Patience

In today’s world of instant gratification, it’s no wonder that we expect success to come overnight. However, what you may not realize from these “overnight successes” is that it took 10+ years of patience and hard work for people to start paying attention. It took consistency over a long period of time to get them to where they are now. The road to success may not always be a straight shot, sometimes you have to take a few different paths, but the consistency at which you move towards your overall goal is what will make all the difference.

Read Also: Future-Proof With Micro-Careers

6. Distractions

It’s so easy to get distracted – by life, by others, by your own thoughts. Maintaining focus on your goal is an important aspect of achieving your version of success. I know it’s tempting to delay success or get sidetracked because something else shiny and fun comes along, but holding on to your inner purpose and goal will help keep you on track. If you find yourself continually choosing your distractions over your goals, you should reevaluate how much you really want to achieve success.

7. Negative Attitudes/Blaming

The #1 thing that can sabotage your success is a negative attitude. Some people focus all their energy on what isn’t working and put a negative spin on pretty much anything happening in their lives. Your energy goes where you focus, and if you focus on negativity and blaming, that’s all you’ll get in return. Instead, harness challenges that come to you by flipping the script and ask:

  • What can I learn from this experience?
  • How will this current challenge protect me against future issues?
  • What am I winning at right now?

Each new challenge presents an opportunity to learn and grow, ultimately helping you achieve what you want. Conditioning yourself against negative thought/blame is one the best things you could do to create space for success.

What has been the biggest challenge for you on your path to success? Tell me below!

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Wishing you all the success in life,

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Future-Proof With Micro-Careers

Food for thought: Your current job may no longer exist in 10 years. Yes, that’s quite a bold statement, but here’s why I think we should be prepared for the inevitable. The rate of technological advancement is exponential, yet the way we think about work and career are still very linear. Most future projections indicate that machines/AI will either force us to adapt how we work alongside tech or eliminate some jobs altogether; giving rise to new industries we have yet to consider.

What does this mean for us? Instead of dedicating all of our working years to only learning 1 skill, in 1 industry, in 1 career, we need to shift our focus from climbing up a corporate ladder to building out a web of skills to help us weather the future storm of progress.

So then the question becomes, how do we prepare for a future where the jobs we’ll have in 5-10 years hasn’t even been invented yet? I want to introduce to you the concept of “micro-careers”:

What is a Micro-Career?

A micro-career is a series of either related or unrelated jobs and careers for the purpose of rapid skill acquisition across various industries and verticals. Think of it as training for the modern day renaissance man/woman. We can’t possibly know exactly what will become of the workforce in the future, but having a collection of transferable skillsets across industries is a strong start.

Start thinking about your career as you would a financial portfolio.

Your time and energy are investable assets that you should diversify, prioritize, rebalance, in order to move towards your version of success. If you invest all your time in a single career, you risk losing out on creating a foundation in another career vertical that could prove to be more lucrative in the future. As the job market becomes increasingly more competitive, with new needs and skills required for a future with AI and tech, the risk of becoming redundant is a very real threat if you’re unprepared. The key is to hedge your bets that the future will create jobs that could suit someone with a diverse skillset.

What Micro-Careers are NOT

I’m not encouraging you to jump from job to job like some manic career shark. Jumping ship at the first challenge is NOT what micro careering is about. If you spread yourself too thinly without gaining actual transferrable skills, you’re building a weak career portfolio. Rather, I’m advising that you are very deliberate with the types of skills you want to acquire and integrate into your future career. Some technical skills will take years to master to the point of it being useful (ie, medicine), or some skills you could learn in a few short years (ie, social media marketing). The skills you choose to focus on will depend on how it aligns with your passions, future job trends, and your own ability to grasp each skill.

It’s not about picking the perfect job for 10 years down the line. It’s about picking jobs based on what skills you want to learn, and collectively how future-proof it could be. It’s very rare to find a single job that is ultimately satisfying for all of eternity, but perhaps you could look within your current job/company to learn new skills to help you down the line. Life happens, people change, families grow, your interests change, but knowing you have a great bank of skills to choose from can ensure you are prepared.

Who Are Micro-Careers For?

Everyone. From the new graduate to those in a stable job, it’s never too late to start learning and adapting for a future job market that demands a varied background. A skill is a skill, nobody can take that away from you. Even if you’ve been in a stable job, think about what other skills you can add that will help enhance your current role or even help make the transition to another job. If you’re not sure where to start, consider learning skills that align with your passions.

 

What do you think? Do you think micro-careers will work for you? Why or why not?

How to Define Your Version of Success

How we define success can either positively or negatively impact our happiness, depending on the source of influence. So often in life, we get distracted by other people’s/society’s version of success. Feelings of inadequacy and failure are common when success is influenced by subconscious programming from external sources. These subconscious ideas of success from media, our friends or our own family are seeded so deep we swear it was our own idea. If you’ve ever felt a small level of growing dissatisfaction in your life, consider this:

The success you’re chasing might not actually be your own.

The key to reprogramming your definition of success is to shift the source of influence from external to internal. There are two steps to define your OWN version of success that will lead to more fulfillment in your life. Ask yourself the questions below:

Removing what is not your version of success

1. What is motivating me to reach success currently? – Take a hard look at what is driving you. Is it influenced by external pressures to keep up with the Joneses, or seeking approval from family/friends? Is it ego? Is it money?
2. Is my current definition of success the same as people around me? – Success is a very personal goal, and if it’s pretty much the same as those around you, perhaps you’re getting swept up in their version of success and not yours.
3. If nobody was watching/validating my success, would I still be doing what I’m doing now? – A lot of what we do is a direct reaction to how we want others to perceive us. Do you strive for success for yourself or to gain recognition/money/power? If the answer to this question is “no, I would not still be doing what I’m doing now”, go back to question #1 above.

By becoming more aware of external influences that shape your current success trajectory, you can start to remove those that don’t serve your life goals. Shed the noise that’s distracting you from achieving your success.

Identify what success actually means to you

1. Who do I aspire to be like? – Think about the people you admire, what qualities do they have? Are people you aspire to be like successful in particular ways that may not necessarily match with what you see in the media as “successful”?
2. What values and principles matter to me? – Is it quality time with family? Finding a work/life balance? Working in an authentic way that brings you joy? Making an impact on society?
3. If you could start over, what does true happiness look like in your life?  – After clearing what isn’t your version of success, visualize what happiness looks and feels like to you. How do you feel when you think about achieving happiness? What are the things you’re doing? Who is in your life? How are you impacting others? Find the link between your passions, your core values, and how you impact the people you care about in your life = success.

Defining your own version of success gives you a new north star to guide you on your path. You’re no longer distracted or caught up by what other people are doing. Success is not a comparison game, and it’s something that is achieved internally.

If you spend your whole life trying to chase other people’s version of success, you’ll only end up dissatisfied or inadequate.I’ve felt this exact way,after all the promotions, the money, the title, and everything on paper…it was a lonely and hollow “success”. I hope that by sharing the lessons I’ve learned about chasing external versions of success will help you to redefine your own version to live a happy and fulfilling life.

Sending love and light,
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